Monday, September 19, 2011

goodbye

So I had an epiphany watching the show "Hoarding: Buried Alive"...I know, I know LAME. This lady was a puppet hoarder (can you say CREEPY!), and she used to be a very successful ventriloquist.  She bought millions of puppets hoping to one day get back into the creepy puppet biz.  Her therapist told her that her false hope was making her not live life to the fullest, her fear of letting go was holding her back.  Her therapist told her that once she lets go of that, a burden will be lifted.

I concurred.  So this week I will try my hardest to let go. No false hope for this girl. So LUCKY for you guys, you won't have to hear about this four year-old b.s. any longer!!! :) I'm moving past it.

I looked up some stuff online about it, and thought that some of you might find it helpful in letting go...

"Hope can be a terrible thing if it keeps you stuck in the past. It’s not easy to end all contact when you feel attached to someone. Breaking off the friendship might feel like ruining your chances at knowing love again.
It’s helped me to change my hopes to broader terms. So instead of wanting a specific person to re-enter your life, want love and happiness—whatever that may look like.

You will know love again. You won’t spend the rest of your life alone. In one way or another, you will meet all kinds of people and create all kinds of possibilities for relationships—if you forgive yourself, let go, and open yourself up, that is.

When you let go, you give yourself peace.

Everything about holding on is torturous. You regret, you feel ashamed and guilty, you rehash, you obsess—it’s all an exercise in suffering. The only way to feel peace is to quiet the thoughts that threaten it.

Letting go opens you up to new possibilities.

When you’re holding onto something, you’re less open to giving and receiving anything else.

If you had your arms wrapped around a huge bucket of water, you wouldn’t be able to give anything other than that bucket, or grab anything else that came your way. You might even struggle breathing because you’re clutching something so all-encompassing with so much effort.

You have to give to receive. Give love to get love, share joy to feel joy. It’s only possible if you’re open and receptive.

Recognize and replace fearful thoughts.

When you’re holding onto a relationship, it’s usually more about attachment than love. Love wants for the other person’s happiness. Fear wants to hold onto whatever appears to make you happy so you don’t have to feel the alternative.

You might not recognize these types of fearful thoughts because they become habitual. Some examples include: I’ll never feel loved again. I’ll always feel lonely. I am completely powerless. Replace those thoughts with: All pain passes eventually. It will be easier if I help them pass by being mindful. I can’t always control what happens to me, but I can control how I respond to it."

2 comments:

  1. You are on the right track!! Remember, you are who you are & there is someone that will love you for that!! Letting go of the past is difficult, but you must to move on to the future. DON'T SETTLE, you deserve the best and the best is yet to come!! Your Momma is praying for you, ALWAYS & FOREVER. Love you!

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